500 Days of Bummer.

I just watched 500 Days of summer and it made me hate this generation's dating practices. I guess I live in this made up world where the "I'm not looking for anything important." speech just keeps you from experiencing your life. In fact I expect to hear it now as soon as I start even being attracted to someone. Whatever happened to just liking someone and seeing what happens? No labels, no expectations, just see what happens and take it from there. Sure, there are girls who feel their clocks ticking and are so in a hurry to get to the alter that they forget to take the time to even get to like the guy that they are dragging along with them, but not all girls are those girls. In fact, I would say that none of my friends are those girls, and I, certainly am not one of those girls. Sure, I've been engaged, a couple times, but that was only because it is impolite to say NO when a man has gone through all of the trouble of asking, and I never dragged it out for more than a few weeks. I have a friend who went through the entire marriage just to be polite.
I guess I have the mentality of a "modern old fashioned.".
I have my own friends, my own life, and my own routine and opinions.
I will happily cook and clean and wear dresses every day, I like a door being opened for me, being taken out on proper dates (none of this "Just hanging out " shit.)and being treated like a lady. I also DO NOT believe that ANYONE has the right to look through another person's phone ,or any snooping or jealousy on either side. (unless the phone was lost in a cab and you're trying to return it to it's owner.)
Because I have tattoos and sometimes a filthy mouth I think that some guys might not think they have to treat me like a lady. How do you walk on that middle ground?
I just think that I have wasted plenty of time on losers and sometimes being alone is just better than half assing your way through a relationship where one person refuses to get invested and the other person feels allowed to have their options open. What a mess! At what point are we all just holding ourselves back from jumping in to our lives? 2009 taught me that waiting around to be ready for living your life and having adventures you just trap yourself. If you want something, take it. Your life is so short. You could die any minute. So quit talking yourself out of happiness.




..but Zooey is still so cute.